Talk in Balham

Streatham Osteopaths will be introducing 2 new practitioners at the practice with a 2 hour talk.

Tracey Grist- Creative Hypnotherapist will be giving a talk, "Talking with Teens" where she will be introducing Hypnotherapy and NLP and discussing how these can be used in communicating with teenagers and demonstrating some of the language patterns she uses to give you more tools to communicate differently and effectively with your children.

There will be time for questions of course, and we are looking to hold the Talk on either Thurs 27th Nov at 7pm or Sat 29th Nov at 2pm. 

Please let Alan at Streatham Osteopaths know via text or a call on :07802826109 and book a place 

We look forward to hearing from you. Tracey's number is: 07976629098 or contact her through: www.hypnotherapybalham.com or hypkids@gmail.com

Talking with Monsters

Why IS it that other parents seem to say yes to their teens, when all you want to say is a resounding, "NO?!"

Teens are aware that most of the time us adults are on Autopilot- What to cook, what to remember, what someone said, what to plan for work tomorrow, etc etc...  

There very rarely is a good time to interrupt our thought stream, as either our minds are too lost in our own thoughts universe or we are deciding to settle into our favourite programme or finally sit down with that audible "Aaah"  (the signal that we have done all we could today) then the most patient of teens launches in.

Either way, it always takes us a time to actually catch onto what is actually being said (or even asked), and eventually we twig and sometimes we absolutely do NOT agree!

What to do.....

"Chunk it down" If Your delightful teen is playing you against ALL the other parents- GET NAMES! Find out exactly how many and who, have said that Yes. 

In excitement of the event, your teen may have missed out vital information that they would consider boring- such as, "Yeah, of course there will be parents present, you can come too."

Or "Yeah, I know I said Vodka, but it's just what we call lemonade because we put spices in it." (Unbelievable but true example).

Just because your teen is getting carried away, try not to get caught in the moment- give yourself time to think or consider- It will also train your teen a bit more in the art of patience...and possibly the art of making a cup of tea....

Establish whether this is your anxiety being projected or whether the situation does demand a no. If you have any doubts, write a list of pros and cons, get a second opinion should you wish.

If you definitely say no, and they definitely think yes, stick to your guns- you are saying No because you love them.

KEEP TO IT.

If a teen sniffs any sign of weakness, they will be ON IT! Your day to day focus is the balance of a million things, their day to day focus is simple- getting what they WANT.... winning your YES.

Be warned and keep strong!

So often teens are surrounded by friends who move the goal posts; one day they are in favour, the next a sworn enemy, what they need from us as parents, are strong, morally accurate boundaries. They have moved on to the next phase of their life where they learn from their peers (yep, we are pretty much off the hook in terms of learning and… damage) but it is in this phase where we offer ‘firm and fair’ - In the sea of teen turbulence, we are their anchor; their home.

Photo by MARIOLA GROBELSKA on Unsplash

Feeling lucky?

Self belief is a mahoosive ask, so if you’re not yet ready to believe in yourself, how about believing in being lucky?

Richard Wiseman (psychologist and writer for The mentalist, to name a couple of his many attributes). Gave a talk on, "Luck."

He posed a very simple question, which I shall pose to you......

"You are in a bank and get shot in the arm, are you lucky or unlucky?"

Sometimes when we believe we are unlucky it can impair our results for change, so before planning to change, perhaps consider, Am I lucky?

For YOU    :-)

Then begin to look for ways (that you may have not noticed before) to help you BELIEVE you are indeed, LUCKY! 

Original Photo by Michael Dziedzic on Unsplash , four leaf clover by son no2 :)

Psychosis In Men - What Is It, How To Spot The Signs And Treatment

Source:The Huffington Post UK Posted: 17/11/2013 18:11 GMT

It is estimated that one in every 100 people have at least one episode of psychosis during their lifetime with one new case per 2,000 people being diagnosed each year.

For an issue that affects so many people, it isn't readily discussed. But Movember is attempting to change that.

For the third of a four-part series exploring men's mental health, we spoke to Mind charity about psychosis.

What is psychosis?

The term psychosis describes experiences which other people don’t experience or share such as hearing or seeing things; or holding unusual beliefs, such as believing you are a God. Some people describe psychotic experiences as being like ‘waking dreams’, feeling as real and intense.

These experiences can be frightening, confusing, highly distressing and disruptive, interfering with everyday life, conversations, relationships, and finding or keeping a job.

How does psychosis affect men compared to women?

Figures from the Adult Psychiatric Morbidity index suggest overall prevalence of psychotic disorder in 2006-2007 was 0.4%, and there is no significant gender difference (0.3% of men, 0.5% of women).

In both men and women the highest prevalence was observed in those aged 35 to 44 years (0.7% and 1.1% respectively). The numbers are very stable over repeated surveys.

What are the signs to look out for?

One sign of psychosis, in the view of many psychiatrists, is that you lack insight into your own state of mind.

In diagnosing you, they will want to know how you see and understand what is happening, and whether you are aware of being different from usual.

Your view of the world will be influenced by your cultural background and personal experiences. If these are not understood or shared by your doctors, you may feel that they lack insight, too.

What are the effective treatments?

Many people are experts in their own condition, and learn the ways of coping which work best for them, so it’s important people are involved in their own treatment. Most people will be offered neuroleptic drugs (also called antipsychotics or major tranquillisers).

Medication may not stop symptoms, but may make people feel calmer and less troubled by them. The best treatment is likely to be a combination of medication, a talking treatment, and other social support.

Talking treatments, such as counselling, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), and psychodynamic psychotherapy can reduce distress, and the intensity and frequency of psychotic experiences.

Art and music therapies help people express their feelings, especially if they have difficulty talking about them. Drama therapy is used to help people come to terms with past traumatic events which may contribute to psychotic experiences.

Working with self-help groups such as the Hearing Voices Network can be a very helpful way of coming to terms with hallucinations, and may stop them.

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