Hey you! Stop being so f-king perfect.

I watched the Netflix show, “Joy; Finding happiness in troubled times” a documentary about the relationship between the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu, two incredible men with an incredible relationship.

On filming the Netflix documentary, Doug Abrams said, “Who the hell am I to try and sit down with these two incredible spiritual leaders and try to distil their wisdom?”

Archbishop Tutu said, “Sometimes you’re the one in room and it doesn’t matter what your strength or limitations are, you have to just show up and let what wants to happen, happen.”

So wonderfully true.

All we can do is bring ourselves into the room, not special, not shiny, not perfect, just our ordinary everyday selves and then we can allow the rest to unfold.

Too many times I see perfection crippling us, stopping us from becoming what we want, (Trigger warning! :) this may be horrific to hear if you are a perfectionist, buuuuut, if we aim for 100%, that means we are also choosing to accept a 99.9% fail rate…Which is absolutely fine if we are choosing to focus on that one thing, but if we are choosing that exchange rate for everything and the rest of life? Is there room for anything else when all we are carrying around is fail rate?

What if we chose to be just mediocre about the stuff we didn’t so much care about? what if we let go just a little bit? What would feel different?

That is the beauty of Hypnotherapy, what it can do is not only release the pressure build up, working together we can figure out what bits totally and absolutely demand mediocrity!

I see it in the schools and the contact from parents, children are expected to be an A* in all subjects, back in the day, we were just allowed to be good in one subject, now it’s all subjects.

We are expected to be academic with values placed on learning information to recite rather than learning ‘How’ to be in the room; how to trust our full self that we can learn to adapt or stay firm in the face of what is happening in the room, step into the flow and do our part, fully and unequivocally ourselves, the good, perfect parts and the not so good parts.

Archbishop was right, it doesn’t matter who we are, it matters where we are, so it’s so important to give ourselves permission to be, well ourselves.

The hypnotherapy I practise at South London therapy is all about being ourselves, learning to understand how we fit into the world and making peace with who we are; the good and more importantly the not so good bits, because, after all, we all have them.

So if you want to explore who you are, and be fully the person you are to embrace life, just have a go at therapy, see if its for you.

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